ENTHUSIASM: Husbands
want wives to initiate lovemaking.
Be more aggressive.
As for him, this indicates that
you really want him.
■ Be spontaneous while
initiating sex. Seduce your
man when he least expects it.
You’ll feel sexier for doing it,
since he’ll be strutting around
like a peacock, content and
satisfied that you dig him as
much as he desires you.
■ Make sex a priority.Scheduling sex isn’t a way to
live. It’s just a tool, a useful
strategy when you need to
reconnect. There will always
exist differences in sexual
appetite and sexual drive.
What’s important is that you
learn as a couple, to recognise
your differences and work
around them, so that you
continue to feel desirable and
loveable to each other.
VARIETY HELPS: This doesn’t
necessarily call for something
wild or outrageous; simply
fiddle with the basic variables
of time, environment,
place, style and imagination.
■ Almost half the men and a
third of the women say they
want sex to last longer, what
they are actually talking
about is foreplay. Ideally,
foreplay starts long before
you hit the bedroom — never
underestimate the power of
anticipation.
■ Your bedroom is cosy, yes,
but after a while, it can start
to look less like a love-nest
and more like a laundryroom-
cum-newstand. Splurge
on candles, sheets, pillows, a
new lamp and a mirror.
■ Try different positions;
missionary alone can be
boring like vanilla ice-cream.
■ Be creative with the placeyou decide to make love,
introduce role play.
ADVENTURE: Occasionally,
you’ll need to shock your
lovemaking back to the real
edge of life by doing something
very, very, bad and
very, very, bold — like
making love in a public place.
■ Pornography is a tool
and, if nothing else, just
watching each other, can be
a huge turn-on.
■ Sharing your fantasies and
encouraging your partner to
enact them can make lovemaking
fun and interesting.
ATTRACTION: When you
dress for your husband —
he takes it as a sign that
you care enough to still
make the effort.
ABSOLUTE DELIGHT: The
choice to spend time together
is proof that you still find
your mate the most amazing
thing to happen to you.
Happy couples seem to
intuitively know that time
away together is a precious
necessity to the constant
renewal of lasting desire.
Examples:
Courtney Cox & David
Arquette
MARRIED FOR 8 YEARS
Marriage mantra: “At
every turn, it’s my job to be
loving and honest to her, if
there’s one thing about our
relationship, it’s that there
are no surprises,” says
David.
Jada Pinkett & Will SmithMARRIED FOR 9 YEARS
Marriage mantra:
“Really, really good sex.
I’m really good at it. And we
talk a lot. Sometimes people
hear us talking and think
we over-talk situations,
but communication is
everything,” maintains Will.
Melanie Griffith &
Antonio BanderasMARRIED FOR 11 YEARS
Marriage mantra: “Let
him know you’re happy: I
smile whenever I see him.
He always knows how
thrilled I am that he’s there
with me,” blushes Melanie.
Madonna & Guy RichieMARRIED FOR 7 YEARS
Marriage mantra:
“It’s not easy having a good
marriage, but I don’t want
easy. I thank God every day
that I married a man who
made me think. That’s my
definition of true love,”
says Madge.
Got a family? TOP sex complaints
1. Spontaneity is
gone: “We used to
have sex all over the
house, but now it’s
just in the bedroom
either late at night or
early morning on a
weekend.”
2. Always rushed: “I
wish we had the time
to really enjoy it and
to hold each other
afterwards, without
having to jump up and
get dressed.”
3. You’ve to jump
through hoops: “It
would be easier to
be spontaneous if
we didn’t have to
constantly attend to
kids’, before we can
be alone.”
4. There are endless
interruptions: “It
would be nice to get
the kids out of the
house once a month,
so that we don’t get
disturbed with little
knocks on the door —
they always occur
at just about the
moment of truth for
me and Poof! IT is
gone.”
5. Nobody can cut
loose: “We hate having
to make love quietly
because the kids are
in the house.”
6. There’s never any
“couple” time: “What
I’d like most is to have
more alone time with
my hubby with no fear
of prior commitments.”
7. We’ve absolutely
no privacy: “I’d like to
get out kids out of our
bed and into their
room, Give me a little
privacy and I’ll take
care of the rest.”
8.We’re always too
tired: I always think
during the day that
I want to have sex
tonight, but by the time
my day is over, I’m
exhausted and don’t
feel like it anymore.
9. Too many
quickies: “I wish sex
was more spiritual,
less about achieving
quick orgasms.”
